No matter
how "perfect" or "great" you think you are, there
will always be someone who is younger, thinner, richer, prettier, or
smarter than you are. You won't always be the center of attention, so
learn to live with it.
The
above doesn't mean you give up and become a shrinking violet, it
means that you accept that fact, and make yourself memorable,
hopefully in a positive way. It means that you might have to make
more of an effort in some way, but if a person is worth being with
and having in your life, they are worth that effort. Just remember
that it's not a competition, and some people just want the next big
thing, the newer, flashier model. Don't sell yourself out. Know your
value. Realize that You
have Value! You
are worth it, even if you are tossed aside by someone because they
prefer a newer flashier model, or even an older, more established
model. This goes no matter what your age or gender.
I had
several discussions yesterday regarding making an effort. Making the
effort to let the other person know that they are valued. Telling me
"I Love you" is nice, and I appreciate it, but your actions
tell me so much more. The way you look at me when I enter a room,
your touch, the effort you make to be with me, remembering the things
I like, and being willing to show me your vulnerabilities. Showing
that you trust me, but that's me. Maybe your needs are different.
Talking about those needs.
Resting on
one's laurels is a dangerous thing to do. Just because you have your
"prize" today does not guarantee that you will always have
them, and if you don't treat them like they are important to you, or
stop putting forth effort and having the mindset of "Now that I
have you, I can relax and let myself go to shit, and ignore you."
you will have a hard lesson to learn.
I don't
necessarily view myself as a "prize," but apparently there
are a few people who feel I am, and I might occasionally wonder about
their taste, I know that I can't neglect them because I'm so special
that they are irresistibly drawn to me. No, I do my best to do things
to show them that I value them as well, whether it's remembering
their favorite music or food, or dressing a certain way. It doesn't
require much effort. They do the same for me, and it makes the both
of us happy.
Shilo is
making the effort to relearn those things about me now that he's
retired and at home. He's making a conscious effort to do things
because for the longest time, he was so busy with work that he didn't
have time. Now time is a more flexible yet fleeting thing, and he's
making it count. He notices things more often and understands me in a
way he never did. It's almost like our early days before we got
married almost six years ago.
Where was
I? Well, I'm not where I planned on going, but I rarely am. Time to
refocus.
I could easily make myself crazy with jealousy over all those people
who have what I don't, but I have a not-so-secret secret. It's not a
competition. I don't have to compete with that pretty young thing
with perfect hair and makeup and mani-pedi's. Sure, she might
occasionally get the attention that I want (and think I need)
but I have something she doesn't have. I've been 'tested,' and anyone
with a decent amount of maturity (and I'm not talking about age)
knows that there's nothing quite as nice as going someplace where
your comfort comes first. Your own bed, your "special"
chair, those shoes that make you feel like like you're walking on
air, and being fed what you like. The whole "There's
No Place Like Home"
feeling.
Know your
value. I know mine.
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