I know I don't have many readers here, but I had an unusual (for me) Saturday afternoon yesterday. I went to a potluck BBQ at an acquaintance's house.
I've known her about 5 years, but rarely saw her except for a once a year "retreat" of sorts. Anyway, when I broke my right humerus in two places last July, she was kind enough to offer her services to cut out the mats in my hair and help me feel pretty. She's a licensed hairdresser, and since she was willing to come to me, who was I to complain? She did a great job, and since then has come over about every 3 months when I asked her to help out with the hair. For the first six months, I was unable to wash or brush my hair, so either Stitch or Shilo got stuck with that along with other personal bodily tasks that I won't mention.
So, anyway, this BBQ is a once a year big affair that she and her husband host. He smokes meats, and people bring all sorts of yummy things to complement the meat. I decided to do something gluten free that Shilo and others might enjoy. People often say that "Gluten Free" is another word for tasteless and often disgusting baked goods that have a funny texture on the mouth. Often, recipes call for Xanthan gum as a binder because it's gluten free. I've always been determined to fix gluten free food with pronounceable and easy to find things that aren't overpriced.
I'm fond of experimentation as well, and because of that, I'll often buy gluten free snacks and dessert items at places such as Big Lots or even the 99 cents only store, along with Dollar Tree. One of my more recent finds was a box of "gourmet" chocolate chip cookies. I read the package,and was pleasantly surprised to discover that all the ingredients were recognizable, and most of them I had at home. I bought it for Shilo, and when I asked him,he said they were "delicious." I insisted on trying, and sure enough, they were a delight on the tongue and tastebuds. I noticed they were made exclusively with rice flour. I decided that I'd go searching for rice flour on my next outing. I bought it at the 99 cents only store and put it in my pantry and forgot about it until a few weeks ago when I got the invitation.
Over the past week, I've looked through the internet trying to find a cookie recipe that would suit Shilo's need for gluten free and my desire for easy to pronounce ingredients that wouldn't break the bank. It had to be similar enough to my personal cookie recipe that I've used since I was in my teens as far as taste was concerned, and, of course, use the brown rice flour. I was met with many disappointments, but I found two recipes that almost fit my needs, but areas were lacking in both of them. Fortunately, the areas could easily be fixed by taking the best of each, and that's what I did.
I made a HUGE bowl of cookies, and baked up half the batch for the BBQ. The rest got bagged and refrigerated to bake later this week. The cookies were about a '9' rated by Shilo, and I hate to admit it, but I gave them a '10.' There was one younger male who has gluten intolerance and was so excited to see cookies that he hugged me. Later, his girlfriend asked for my secret. I emailed my recipe to her. I told her she might want to halve it, because I like to make HUGE amounts of cookies.
I guess it was that success that got me thinking about all my other recipes that I've modified to make gluten free. I don't have many, but what if I created a blog/forum similar to Dan's where men and women could discuss and share their gluten free cooking disasters as well as successes, and recipes could be exchanged? Something for people like me who love to cook and eat but aren't professional chefs or nutritionists but just like good tasting foods.
I'd much rather talk to a real person about the trial and error approach where the (poor) family dog gets the mistakes, or sometimes it's too horrible even for the dog. I'd also like to share the recipes that I have perfected and maybe provide encouragement for people taking those first painful steps in trying out gluten free food and coming short.
So, all the above is just saying that I have an idea for a blog, and I'm asking for encouragement.
Please?
Sunday, May 28, 2017
Friday, May 26, 2017
More Just For Fun
1. Who are you named after?
My Daddy. Keep in mind I'm not really a Mary/Merry.
2. Last time you cried?
This morning.
3. Do you like your handwriting?
It's difficult to read.
4. What is your favorite island?
That I've been to: Catalina. That I will probably never get to: Australia (I've been to Oahu and Maui as well)
5. Longest relationship?
13+ years and still going strong.
7. Do you still have your tonsils?
Yes.
8. Would you bungee jump?
NO!
9. What is your favorite kind of cereal?
Mix of plain Cheerios and Red Berry Special K. Otherwise it's too sweet.
10. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off?
Sometimes.
12. Favorite ice cream?
Rocky Road (I prefer the one with almonds)
13. What is the first thing you notice about a person?
It depends. Coming towards me - The eyes.
Facing away - the bottom
14. Football or baseball?
Neither
.
15. Favorite animal you would probably never own?
Dolphin.
16. Last thing you ate?
Leftovers.
17. What are you listening to?
"One Sweet Love" - Sara Bareilles from a YouTube mix. Not familiar with her, but I like it.
18. If you were a crayon, what color would you be?
Magenta
19. What is your Favorite smell?
Vanilla
20. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?
A telemarketer.
21. Married?
Yes.
22. Hair color?
Pink with dark brown. Usually dark brown with LOTS of silver.
23. Eye color?
Blue
24. Favorite foods?
Anything I don't have to cook. Strawberries, cherries, broccoli (but it must be cooked!)
25. Scary movies or happy endings?
Either/or.
26. Last show you watched?
The Big Bang Theory (repeat)
27. What color shirt are you wearing?
Gray.
28. Favorite holiday?
Thanksgiving. I love to cook for Family and Friends!
29. Beer or Wine?
Neither. Root beer!
30. Night owl or morning person?
Depends on the day.
31. Favorite day of the week?
Saturday or Monday
32. Favorite season?
Spring.
Monday, May 22, 2017
101 Mostly Irrelevant Questions and Answers
The stuff people ask me! I'll put an updated set of questions in the comments area.
1.) When's your birthday?
July 13
2.) What's your sign?
Slippery When Wet. Oh, you mean astrological? Cancer, the crab
3.) What's your favorite color?
Black, although many would argue that black isn’t a color. Let’s go with pink and blue shades, also lavender
4.) What's your favorite season?
Spring
5.) Where are you from?
Born in Southern California
6.) Where do you currently live?
Long Beach, CA
7.) How old are you?
Old enough. (55)
8.) What is your gender?
Female
9.) What is your sexual orientation?
Whenever possible! I’m very selective, but gender had little to do with it.
10.) What is your favorite bodily asset?
My eyes.
11.) Who's your favorite superhero?
I don’t think I ever had one.
12.) When was the last time that you had sex?
A long while ago. Given the choice, I’d have sex at least once a week
13.) What is your favorite position?
Depends on what’s being done and by whom.
14.) What is your biggest sexual fantasy?
Currently? Engaging in intercourse with one of my Partners.
15.) What type of music do you listen to?
I have an eclectic taste in music. I dislike bluegrass and electronica.
16.) Who are five of your favorite musical artists?
Not answering with the names, but at least one is Heavy metal at least one is a rap artist, at least one started as a boy band from the 1960’s, and one is a female who started in the 1980’s. None of them is Cher.
17.) What are five of your favorite musical albums?
Dark Side of the Moon
Boston
Disney’s Classics (produced in 1980?)
Bat out of Hell
The Anthology of Bread
(None of the above were mentioned in #16)
18.) What type of movies/TV shows do you watch?
I don’t have a “type”
19.) Who are five of your favorite actors & actresses?
Sandra Bullock
Samuel L Jackson
Jack Nicholson
Morgan Freeman
Helen Mirren
Uma Thurman
20.) Who are three of your favorite directors?
Quentin Tarantino
Kevin Smith
I don’t have a third at the moment
21.) What are some of your hobbies?
Napping and cooking large meals.
22.) What type of underwear do you prefer to wear?
Comfortable
23.) Do you have any tats and/or piercings? If so, how many and where at?
Yes to both. I even have a scarification piece. At one point I had about 30 piercings. Most have been retired.
24.) What is your favorite pastime?
Reading books. I mean REAL books, not those e-book things.
25.) What do you like to do for fun?
You mean besides my hobbies and my favorite pastime? Writing.
26.) What are five qualities that you look for in a significant other and/or friend?
Honesty
The ability to laugh at one’s self and me
Kindness
A positive attitude
Patience
27.) What is your life's motto?
I have two.
Anything worth having is worth waiting for.
Life is too short to hold grudges
28.) What are five words or/and phrases that would describe you?
Childlike, but NOT childish.
Honest to a fault.
Warm hearted.
Loyal
Quiet on the outside.
29.) What are some of your fears/phobias?
Heights, takeoffs and landings on planes (I’m fine once I’m off the ground) Abandonment.
30.) Are you a sexual person?
Yes
31.) What are some of your pet peeves?
Spelling, grammar, and punctuation errors.
Improper use of contractions (Should of instead of Should have or Should’ve)
Improper use of They’re, Their, or There
using (‘) when unnecessary (EX: tattoo’s instead of tattoos)
Text speak
Mangled usage of the English language
Penis pictures as avatars
Multiple selfies in a profile.
32.) Where are your hot spots?
Wifi or other?
33.) What is your relationship status at this moment?
Married and Polyamorous. Mistress with a slave and submissive. I have other partners as well. Open to more.
34.) Do you have any kids?
All grown up! (thank goodness!)
35.) Do you have any pets (animals)?
Yes
36.) What is the most sexual adventurous thing you've done thus far?
I’ll never tell
37.) Do you have a college degree?
yes
38.) Are you currently in school (college or high school)?
No
39.) What is/was/will be your major & minor?
Nursing
40.) What is your life's dream?
I’m living it most days.
41.) What is your dream career?
I’ve done it. (Nursing)
42.) What is your dream car?
Ford F150 (So fun to drive, but impractical for me)
43.) Do you prefer to give or receive oral, more?
I prefer receiving, but will gladly give in many circumstances.
44.) What is your stance on public display of affection?
Depends on the type and how public.
45.) What is your favorite kind of meal?
The ones I don’t have to cook.
Broccoli is my favorite vegetable followed by brussels sprouts
46.) What is your favorite dessert?
Depends on the occasion. It usually involves chocolate.
47.) What is your favorite bodily asset on another person?
The eyes.
48.) What are some of your best qualities (both physical and nonphysical)?
I mentioned them on #10 and #28
49.) What is your spirit animal?
I usually get wolf, but also cat. A little of both.
50.) Are you religious? If so what's your religion?
I’m not overly religious anymore, but I consider myself to be Christian.
51.) If you were a superhero/villain, what would be your name and your super powers (up to four choices)?
I wouldn’t want to be a superhero or villain, but the ability to fly and/or instantly travel to wherever I want would be nice
52.) Who are your top four favorite comedians?
Not sharing that.
53.) What is the superhero film in your opinion?
Your question makes no sense.
54.) Who is the best Batman and Joker? (Yes, Conroy and Hamill count)
The Originals. Adam West as Batman and Cesar Romero as Joker
55.) What is your favorite childhood animated movie?
The Jungle Book
56.) What age did you lose your virginity?
16
57.) What are four things that you consider yourself good at?
Cooking
Writing
Ask me later about the other 2
58.) Are you a morning or night person?
Night
59.) Do you masturbate? If so, when was the last time you did?
Rarely (as in less than once a year)
60.) What are some of your "vanilla" interests?
Look at #21 and #24
61.) What is something that you like but you shouldn't?
Can’t think of anything right now.
62.) Are you ticklish?
Sometimes
63.) Who is the worst director/actor/actress in your opinion?
Meg Ryan
64.) Do you like to dance?
Yes.
65.) Do you like to go out or are you a homebody?
Homebody, but I enjoy myself when I do go out.
66.) Who is the best James Bond in your opinion?
I dislike ALL James Bond movies.
67.) What are you wearing right now?
Shoes
68.) Who is/are your celebrity bae(s)?
I don’t understand the question. English please?
69.) Do you smoke and/or drink?
No.
70.) Which do you prefer crayons, markers, or color pencils?
Sunshine likes crayons. So do I.
71.) Do you prefer showers or baths?
To get clean? Showers.
72.) Have you ever cheated and/or been cheated on?
Yes
73.) What are three of your bad habits?
Correcting others in regards to question #31
Being impatient
74.) What is your nickname?
Merry, Sunshine, or Merry Sunshine
75.) What is the best pick up line you've heard or/and used?
None
76.) What do you wear to sleep?
Nothing, unless it’s cold.
77.) Are you into being romantic?
Not really
78.) What is the first thing people notice about you?
I’ve been told it’s my eyes and/or my smile
79.) What is your stance on anal and rimming?
Whatever makes the person happy.
80.) What is your turn up/get hype song?
I have more than one.
81.) What song do you always play when you are sad?
I don’t
82.) What is your favorite animal?
Domestic or wild?
83.) Who's better, Bruce Lee, Jackie Chan, Tony Jaa, Donnie Yen, or Jet Li?
I enjoy Jackie Chan the most.
84.) What is/was your longest relationship?
About 15 years so far
85.) Have you ever had a one night stand? If so, when was the last time?
Nope.
86.) Who are your favorite male and female pornstars?
I don’t really watch porn.
87.) How do you usually wait before you fuck someone?
I don’t have a “usual” amount of time. The shortest was a week after we met. The longest was after 2 ½ years of dating.
88.) What is the last new thing that you tried?
I went to a new restaurant last month. I had corn chowder the first time a week ago.
89.) What was/is your favorite subject in school?
English
90.) What is one thing that absolutely will turn you on everytime?
Biting (giving)
91.) Have you ever sent nudes and/or sexted someone? If so, when was the last time?
Over 3 years ago.
92.) Are you superstitious?
A little
93.) What is your favorite number?
13
94.) Where is your dream location to live?
I don’t have one.
95.) Do you workout?
No
96.) What do you do in order to relax?
Play video games or watching movies usually send me to Lala land
97.) Do you have any allergies?
Many!
98.) What are the top three things that you find unattractive?
Lying
Poor hygiene
Lack of manners
99.) Should we converse with one another after you've answered this?
Only if you want
100.) Do you think that you can turn me on?
I might be able to.
101.) Will you add me as a friend?
I don’t know you well enough, but feel free to follow me.
1.) When's your birthday?
July 13
2.) What's your sign?
Slippery When Wet. Oh, you mean astrological? Cancer, the crab
3.) What's your favorite color?
Black, although many would argue that black isn’t a color. Let’s go with pink and blue shades, also lavender
4.) What's your favorite season?
Spring
5.) Where are you from?
Born in Southern California
6.) Where do you currently live?
Long Beach, CA
7.) How old are you?
Old enough. (55)
8.) What is your gender?
Female
9.) What is your sexual orientation?
Whenever possible! I’m very selective, but gender had little to do with it.
10.) What is your favorite bodily asset?
My eyes.
11.) Who's your favorite superhero?
I don’t think I ever had one.
12.) When was the last time that you had sex?
A long while ago. Given the choice, I’d have sex at least once a week
13.) What is your favorite position?
Depends on what’s being done and by whom.
14.) What is your biggest sexual fantasy?
Currently? Engaging in intercourse with one of my Partners.
15.) What type of music do you listen to?
I have an eclectic taste in music. I dislike bluegrass and electronica.
16.) Who are five of your favorite musical artists?
Not answering with the names, but at least one is Heavy metal at least one is a rap artist, at least one started as a boy band from the 1960’s, and one is a female who started in the 1980’s. None of them is Cher.
17.) What are five of your favorite musical albums?
Dark Side of the Moon
Boston
Disney’s Classics (produced in 1980?)
Bat out of Hell
The Anthology of Bread
(None of the above were mentioned in #16)
18.) What type of movies/TV shows do you watch?
I don’t have a “type”
19.) Who are five of your favorite actors & actresses?
Sandra Bullock
Samuel L Jackson
Jack Nicholson
Morgan Freeman
Helen Mirren
Uma Thurman
20.) Who are three of your favorite directors?
Quentin Tarantino
Kevin Smith
I don’t have a third at the moment
21.) What are some of your hobbies?
Napping and cooking large meals.
22.) What type of underwear do you prefer to wear?
Comfortable
23.) Do you have any tats and/or piercings? If so, how many and where at?
Yes to both. I even have a scarification piece. At one point I had about 30 piercings. Most have been retired.
24.) What is your favorite pastime?
Reading books. I mean REAL books, not those e-book things.
25.) What do you like to do for fun?
You mean besides my hobbies and my favorite pastime? Writing.
26.) What are five qualities that you look for in a significant other and/or friend?
Honesty
The ability to laugh at one’s self and me
Kindness
A positive attitude
Patience
27.) What is your life's motto?
I have two.
Anything worth having is worth waiting for.
Life is too short to hold grudges
28.) What are five words or/and phrases that would describe you?
Childlike, but NOT childish.
Honest to a fault.
Warm hearted.
Loyal
Quiet on the outside.
29.) What are some of your fears/phobias?
Heights, takeoffs and landings on planes (I’m fine once I’m off the ground) Abandonment.
30.) Are you a sexual person?
Yes
31.) What are some of your pet peeves?
Spelling, grammar, and punctuation errors.
Improper use of contractions (Should of instead of Should have or Should’ve)
Improper use of They’re, Their, or There
using (‘) when unnecessary (EX: tattoo’s instead of tattoos)
Text speak
Mangled usage of the English language
Penis pictures as avatars
Multiple selfies in a profile.
32.) Where are your hot spots?
Wifi or other?
33.) What is your relationship status at this moment?
Married and Polyamorous. Mistress with a slave and submissive. I have other partners as well. Open to more.
34.) Do you have any kids?
All grown up! (thank goodness!)
35.) Do you have any pets (animals)?
Yes
36.) What is the most sexual adventurous thing you've done thus far?
I’ll never tell
37.) Do you have a college degree?
yes
38.) Are you currently in school (college or high school)?
No
39.) What is/was/will be your major & minor?
Nursing
40.) What is your life's dream?
I’m living it most days.
41.) What is your dream career?
I’ve done it. (Nursing)
42.) What is your dream car?
Ford F150 (So fun to drive, but impractical for me)
43.) Do you prefer to give or receive oral, more?
I prefer receiving, but will gladly give in many circumstances.
44.) What is your stance on public display of affection?
Depends on the type and how public.
45.) What is your favorite kind of meal?
The ones I don’t have to cook.
Broccoli is my favorite vegetable followed by brussels sprouts
46.) What is your favorite dessert?
Depends on the occasion. It usually involves chocolate.
47.) What is your favorite bodily asset on another person?
The eyes.
48.) What are some of your best qualities (both physical and nonphysical)?
I mentioned them on #10 and #28
49.) What is your spirit animal?
I usually get wolf, but also cat. A little of both.
50.) Are you religious? If so what's your religion?
I’m not overly religious anymore, but I consider myself to be Christian.
51.) If you were a superhero/villain, what would be your name and your super powers (up to four choices)?
I wouldn’t want to be a superhero or villain, but the ability to fly and/or instantly travel to wherever I want would be nice
52.) Who are your top four favorite comedians?
Not sharing that.
53.) What is the superhero film in your opinion?
Your question makes no sense.
54.) Who is the best Batman and Joker? (Yes, Conroy and Hamill count)
The Originals. Adam West as Batman and Cesar Romero as Joker
55.) What is your favorite childhood animated movie?
The Jungle Book
56.) What age did you lose your virginity?
16
57.) What are four things that you consider yourself good at?
Cooking
Writing
Ask me later about the other 2
58.) Are you a morning or night person?
Night
59.) Do you masturbate? If so, when was the last time you did?
Rarely (as in less than once a year)
60.) What are some of your "vanilla" interests?
Look at #21 and #24
61.) What is something that you like but you shouldn't?
Can’t think of anything right now.
62.) Are you ticklish?
Sometimes
63.) Who is the worst director/actor/actress in your opinion?
Meg Ryan
64.) Do you like to dance?
Yes.
65.) Do you like to go out or are you a homebody?
Homebody, but I enjoy myself when I do go out.
66.) Who is the best James Bond in your opinion?
I dislike ALL James Bond movies.
67.) What are you wearing right now?
Shoes
68.) Who is/are your celebrity bae(s)?
I don’t understand the question. English please?
69.) Do you smoke and/or drink?
No.
70.) Which do you prefer crayons, markers, or color pencils?
Sunshine likes crayons. So do I.
71.) Do you prefer showers or baths?
To get clean? Showers.
72.) Have you ever cheated and/or been cheated on?
Yes
73.) What are three of your bad habits?
Correcting others in regards to question #31
Being impatient
74.) What is your nickname?
Merry, Sunshine, or Merry Sunshine
75.) What is the best pick up line you've heard or/and used?
None
76.) What do you wear to sleep?
Nothing, unless it’s cold.
77.) Are you into being romantic?
Not really
78.) What is the first thing people notice about you?
I’ve been told it’s my eyes and/or my smile
79.) What is your stance on anal and rimming?
Whatever makes the person happy.
80.) What is your turn up/get hype song?
I have more than one.
81.) What song do you always play when you are sad?
I don’t
82.) What is your favorite animal?
Domestic or wild?
83.) Who's better, Bruce Lee, Jackie Chan, Tony Jaa, Donnie Yen, or Jet Li?
I enjoy Jackie Chan the most.
84.) What is/was your longest relationship?
About 15 years so far
85.) Have you ever had a one night stand? If so, when was the last time?
Nope.
86.) Who are your favorite male and female pornstars?
I don’t really watch porn.
87.) How do you usually wait before you fuck someone?
I don’t have a “usual” amount of time. The shortest was a week after we met. The longest was after 2 ½ years of dating.
88.) What is the last new thing that you tried?
I went to a new restaurant last month. I had corn chowder the first time a week ago.
89.) What was/is your favorite subject in school?
English
90.) What is one thing that absolutely will turn you on everytime?
Biting (giving)
91.) Have you ever sent nudes and/or sexted someone? If so, when was the last time?
Over 3 years ago.
92.) Are you superstitious?
A little
93.) What is your favorite number?
13
94.) Where is your dream location to live?
I don’t have one.
95.) Do you workout?
No
96.) What do you do in order to relax?
Play video games or watching movies usually send me to Lala land
97.) Do you have any allergies?
Many!
98.) What are the top three things that you find unattractive?
Lying
Poor hygiene
Lack of manners
99.) Should we converse with one another after you've answered this?
Only if you want
100.) Do you think that you can turn me on?
I might be able to.
101.) Will you add me as a friend?
I don’t know you well enough, but feel free to follow me.
Friday, May 19, 2017
The Miracle of An Open Heart
A few days ago, I write about the unexpected death of my friend Tommy. I decided that maybe forgiveness had a place in all this. I unblocked all the people I had blocked on my vanilla Facebook page. I had no idea of they would even bother to contact me, but I had opened my heart to that possibility.
When I did that, I noticed someone who was a former neighbor of mine from when I was married to the father of my children. For reference, I left him 21 years ago. About 10 years ago, this person found me on Facebook, and we would sometimes message back and forth, but this friend got upset because I neglected to put a birthday greeting on their wall in 2011. I had a good reason, but this person went ballistic, so I blocked them. When I unblocked this person, I checked out their page. I was happy to see that my former friend was doing well.
Today, I went to an inactive social network page of mine, and I found a message request. It was from that former friend I mentioned above. The message was from 2 years ago, apologizing for their actions. There was a phone number attached, so I called from Shilo's phone (blocked) The first time, the person hung up on me. The second time, it went to voicemail, so I left a message,saying I would call back soon. I waited 15 minutes and tried again, but it went to voicemail, so I replied to the message online. This person apologized again, and I could tell it was sincere. We agreed that I would call sometime over the weekend. I'm happy it turned out this way.
I could leave with that story, but I have another related to forgiving. On early March, I went back on OKC after a 8+ month hiatus. A slightly older gentleman messaged me (In fact, several people messaged me, but this is about this one) His wife had recently died, and he just wanted someone to talk to. We talked on the phone and emailed each other, but I was still having problems with my frozen shoulder, and we (Shilo, Stitch, and Myself) were still trying to find somewhere to move. I told him that I'd be a few weeks with limited internet, but I would call him on a regular basis, but by the end of March, he stopped calling or replying. I was sad that he didn't bother ending things and just left me hanging, even though I acknowledged to myself that the timing was off. I like closure.
Anyway he called me this afternoon and apologized for disappearing without a goodbye. It turns out he met someone, and they're pretty serious. I guess he thought I'd be upset or disappointed, but I'm happy for him. I even acknowledged that the timing was wrong for me.
I guess I'm two for two, and I feel pretty good about it.
When I did that, I noticed someone who was a former neighbor of mine from when I was married to the father of my children. For reference, I left him 21 years ago. About 10 years ago, this person found me on Facebook, and we would sometimes message back and forth, but this friend got upset because I neglected to put a birthday greeting on their wall in 2011. I had a good reason, but this person went ballistic, so I blocked them. When I unblocked this person, I checked out their page. I was happy to see that my former friend was doing well.
Today, I went to an inactive social network page of mine, and I found a message request. It was from that former friend I mentioned above. The message was from 2 years ago, apologizing for their actions. There was a phone number attached, so I called from Shilo's phone (blocked) The first time, the person hung up on me. The second time, it went to voicemail, so I left a message,saying I would call back soon. I waited 15 minutes and tried again, but it went to voicemail, so I replied to the message online. This person apologized again, and I could tell it was sincere. We agreed that I would call sometime over the weekend. I'm happy it turned out this way.
I could leave with that story, but I have another related to forgiving. On early March, I went back on OKC after a 8+ month hiatus. A slightly older gentleman messaged me (In fact, several people messaged me, but this is about this one) His wife had recently died, and he just wanted someone to talk to. We talked on the phone and emailed each other, but I was still having problems with my frozen shoulder, and we (Shilo, Stitch, and Myself) were still trying to find somewhere to move. I told him that I'd be a few weeks with limited internet, but I would call him on a regular basis, but by the end of March, he stopped calling or replying. I was sad that he didn't bother ending things and just left me hanging, even though I acknowledged to myself that the timing was off. I like closure.
Anyway he called me this afternoon and apologized for disappearing without a goodbye. It turns out he met someone, and they're pretty serious. I guess he thought I'd be upset or disappointed, but I'm happy for him. I even acknowledged that the timing was wrong for me.
I guess I'm two for two, and I feel pretty good about it.
Tuesday, May 16, 2017
Death
In the past week, several people I call friend have died. Friend is not a title I give loosely. You earn that. Yes, there are Facebook friends, Fetlife friends, etc; but I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about more than just that. People I've shared secrets with, laughed with, and cried with. People who made a difference in my life. People who never forgot that they were loved by me.
M died due to a blood clot that traveled to her brain. It was sudden, but in the days preceding her death, we (her friends) knew that she was going to die. Hard? Yes.
Tommy started out as an online acquaintance about 15 years ago that turned into something more. In April 2010, during a cross country road trip, we finally met up. The sparks were real. I met his daughter then as well. If she hadn't been there, more might have happened, but it wasn't to be. I never considered him a "lost love" because we became facebook friends, and would call on a regular basis until my mom died. Still, Facebook kept us in touch. Even when I found out he was a Trump supporter, I kept in touch. We made plans to see each other "soon" because I just knew I'd return to Texas eventually.
An excerpt of our last online conversation is below:
Tommy (((Hugs)))
love ya hun wish you didnt live so far away you love me for who I am
and not for what you want me to be.A true heart you have.Im truly happy
that hes doing better I remember the hell you had.Im not saying Obama
Care is all bad but I shouldnt have to have 4 hundred bucks taken out of my paycheck because I dont have healthcare either.I can always just go to the VA...
May 11 at 12:23pm
Tommy was found dead in his bedroom Sunday morning (5-14) with a broken neck. All I could get out of his daughter was that it was an accident. I'm heartbroken. Tommy was always helping people, and even when his house burned down a few years ago, he helped out others. He was a giving person. I'm proud to have been his friend, and I'm grateful that I gave him "flowers" while he was living.
I have a favor to ask: Please remember that we only walk on this earth for a limited time. We don't know when our life might end, or the lives of others. Please don't hold back your feelings. Tell people 'Thank you, I love you, I care' if you feel that way. Share those good happy feelings. Don't be full of regret when it's too late.
Merry
M died due to a blood clot that traveled to her brain. It was sudden, but in the days preceding her death, we (her friends) knew that she was going to die. Hard? Yes.
Tommy started out as an online acquaintance about 15 years ago that turned into something more. In April 2010, during a cross country road trip, we finally met up. The sparks were real. I met his daughter then as well. If she hadn't been there, more might have happened, but it wasn't to be. I never considered him a "lost love" because we became facebook friends, and would call on a regular basis until my mom died. Still, Facebook kept us in touch. Even when I found out he was a Trump supporter, I kept in touch. We made plans to see each other "soon" because I just knew I'd return to Texas eventually.
An excerpt of our last online conversation is below:
Mary Price You aren't racist or hate-mongering. You just have a different opinion on things.
Obamacare
kept my son Jonathan alive when he developed cancer. He would be dead
today if it wasn't for the Affordable Care Act. Still, I accept that you
have a different opinion.
Now stop yelling about your guns blazing and give Merry a hug. You know you want to.
I'm sure that everything will work out.
May 11 at 12:23pm
Tommy was found dead in his bedroom Sunday morning (5-14) with a broken neck. All I could get out of his daughter was that it was an accident. I'm heartbroken. Tommy was always helping people, and even when his house burned down a few years ago, he helped out others. He was a giving person. I'm proud to have been his friend, and I'm grateful that I gave him "flowers" while he was living.
I have a favor to ask: Please remember that we only walk on this earth for a limited time. We don't know when our life might end, or the lives of others. Please don't hold back your feelings. Tell people 'Thank you, I love you, I care' if you feel that way. Share those good happy feelings. Don't be full of regret when it's too late.
Merry
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