my people! Whether you are a first-time reader, an occasional reader,
or someone who reads everything I write, you are "My"
people. You share an interest in whatever I write about, or maybe you
show up for the occasional (okay, rare) nudes of myself, Shilo, or
one of my other "victims." Either way, happy to have you
had many changes over the years, including a complete stop of BDSM
and Domestic Discipline of my Husband/Chosen One/slave Shilo due to
his ongoing problems related to his health. Currently, his Advanced
metastatic prostate cancer is under control thanks to his
Chemotherapy (an injection every 3 months) and last year's Radiation,
although they have some unpleasant side effects. Still better than
being dead, and 2 years ago, he only had maybe 2 years to live without treatment, so I'm happy.
to all that, Shilo recently decided to talk to his doctor about his
desire to engage in sexual activity, and related to that, although
not mentioned to the doctor, is his interest in spanking and other
related activity has returned. I NEVER, not once, complained
about his lack of interest since his diagnosis, because it's not like
he has had any control in the matter. This was his
decision to do something about it, and I'm glad it was Shilo's
decision, because it means a lot to me.
week, Shilo sent me an email titled "The Six O'Clock Alarm"
and because it is personal, yet relevant, especially to couples who
may have reached a point of disinterest, or maybe a dry spell, I
wanted to share the email with you. In the interest of
presenting it in my blog, I've changed some You's to me, etc. Please
The Six O'Clock Alarm
phone alarm goes off at 6PM,
Am I in the kitchen, at the computer, in bed, next to him, not home? If I am easy to find, he may ask me something like "You in?" or "You game?"
He will not wake me for this – appointment. If I am asleep, It's canceled.
IF I am not home, it's canceled. IF I say 'No', with or without a reason, doesn't matter, it's canceled. He can cancel, too, for health issues.
IF we're both in and willing:He will enter Stitch’s bedroom (on the rare occasion that Stitch might be occupying his bedroom at this particular time, we'll adjust this to our room). Shilo will prepare himself, in terms of state of undress suitable for the temperature, and position himself for a spanking.
I enter the bedroom, I will go into the Dining Room to use the dice.
There is paper, and a pen nearby. I will roll ONE die, to indicate
the number of spanking implements I get to pick. Then I will roll
BOTH dice, to indicate how many swats of the each implement.... and
write the numbers down. I will continue rolling, one roll for each
implement, until my list is complete. (EXAMPLE: I roll a 4, so four
implements, and then I roll 10, so ten swats with the first
implement, then I roll 3, so three swats with the second, and so
MAY result in one implement, two swats. This
MAY result in six implements, twelve swats each. That's
just... the way the dice roll.
will go into the bedroom, select my implement(s), and (this would be
a great time for me to say anything that comes to mind, along the
lines of “I'm glad I'm about to spank you, because you did this, or
I'm upset about that”), and deliver the indicated number of swats
to his anxiously-waiting bare bottom.
will put down the implement, select my next, employ it, and so on
until I have finished with the number of implements indicated, and
then I will announce by saying, "Done!" so he knows I’m
finished. If I’m feeling nice, I will ask him to pose for pictures
for his diary. I might then say, cheerily, "All done!" or
perhaps, grumpily, any other words that lets him know he can get up,
get dressed, put away implements, etc. He might even offer a 'thank
you' of an intimate nature, right after. I may accept or refuse, my
to the cancellations mentioned above: If there are three
cancellations in any one week period (Sunday to Saturday) we will
have a conference to assess the reasons, and decide if the plan is
working for us.
to this plan: no guesswork as to the other's mood, no hemming and
hawing. No asking or demanding. This is not punishment or discipline,
which Shilo resents. For me, this could be therapeutic, I can think
about the number of times I wanted to spank him, and he
to this plan is no spontaneity. Spontaneity has not worked great for
us, anyway. No adjustment to the number of swats decided by the dice.
If I don't think the number is big enough, I can wait another day. Or
lie. He has no way of verifying the numbers that came up on the dice.
I might be pissed off by something he did and decide, without rolling
any dice, that the numbers are 6x12.
my people, what do YOU think? Do you have any thoughts or
will share that I had my doubts, but since that email, we have done
this three separate times, and it has worked out well for us.